Making it count


The other day I said to a dear friend of mine these words: “ Gosh, you just can’t catch a break”. However, when I got by myself, I realized that I should have thought before I spoke. I rationalized her situation. She has children. They are very young. She recently got transportation. The car is giving her problems. Gas prices are high. She talked about these things over and over. So much so until, I reached in my purse and gave her $10 of my bill money just so she would have some sense that someone cared and she was not in this alone. Again, when I got by myself, reality hit me. She is not alone. She has a nice family and she has financial support that is consistent in her life. I raised four without any child support. I worked three or four jobs and kept food on the table. Complaining was never an option. So I never indulged. Her voice…her worry became mine and I sacrificially gave her my last. It worked. She stopped talking about not having gas money. That solved she moved onto being tired. My 4 children were all born before I was 27 years old. I truly had no tolerance for her complaining. There is just so much more she has to be grateful for and I was lost in her translation of her life. Anyway, as a young Mother that is par for the course.

So I don’t get it when people complain. Like the new Mary, Mary show. Whine, anger, telling people off, whine, sing people into oblivion, whine some more. I am sure they have a large audience. But after watching, I decided to pray for them and the generation they are affecting/effecting. Remembering the balance act of the Universe. Good things, Bad things, up things down things but the exacting of purpose is within the words we say and the actions we take. It is inherent. One thing good happens, another thing like a flat tire or the new bill arrives and you just paid the other one last week! Makes the idea of Wabi Sabi or Agape love a hope rather than a reality. Please let’s break the ‘ woe is me’ syndrome. And adapt the “more than a conquer “ attitude.
Making it count causes all of us to refocus. To do our best not to live in two worlds: Where fear and hatred fall from our lips more than gratitude in the darkest of times. Even when you can’t see it. See it in your heart.
Over the years of marriage and children working with what I have and staying in God’s heart (even during my ‘I’m gonna do this’ stage worked for me. It can work for others if we are willing. Read body language. Get to understand your mate and your children by it and it will never fail and will help you deal with how to maintain your sanity. Our major concern should be is that we are all out to ‘making it count’.

Melody’s blog Spot 04/22/12